1. A person is not defined by their past mistakes. You are not defined by your past mistakes. People grow and they learn. Do not hold grudges or base someone's characteristics on what they did if they don't do it anymore. That was the past and they stopped doing it, so stop judging them for it. I learnt this because I held grudges and I didn't trust people or I built my arguments as to why I didn't like them because of things they did to me but after seeing these people again, after their adolescence, they were no longer the same. Maybe their problems were still subconsciously existent, but they were nice, and polite, and accepting. They grew up. And I thought about it more and I realised that if someone based my characteristics on the mistakes I had made, it would be so unfair and incorrect because I am no longer that person. I grew up, and I learned and I try so hard not to repeat the past. So realise that people do change. You don't have to trust them or forgive them immediately, but don't keep hating. Hating's bad, it's poisonous. That is unless they still hold those bad traits now. If so, wow, they suck. Fucking racists.
2. Move on. Always move on. Things will happen and then they stop happening. And when that happens, move on. This may be terrible advice, but life is all about putting your all into something, and then letting it go. I guess this doesn't apply to everything, like with family and the love of your life, but learn to let go of something when you need to. Even if you love it, or you miss it, or you don't want to let go, sometimes you'll just need to. And you'll know you'll need to when it hurts to much to, and yet you're losing grip. It's terrible but such is life, and nothing lasts forever.
3. Don't hold grudges. Be weary but you can't live your life with a heart full of hate. Don't do it. LOL this is kinda sorta like a combo of lesson 1 & 2. Don't hold onto hate and move on, brah. You've got more important things to think of.
4. If you find joy in something, and it doesn't harm anybody else, go for it. Do what you want, be who you want to be. Maybe you'll be discriminated and made fun of but in the end you'll be happier. Find comfort in the idea that you overcame fear and that unlike so many poor souls, you're who you are and you're happy. And yes, I understand that for some of you, what makes you happy might bring shame to the people you love or hurt their pride, but pride is a stupid thing. I mean sure, be proud of who you are, that's great, confidence is key, but don't let someone else's pride affect your happiness. And besides, someone's pride is not necessarily constant. Only the stubborn have a defined pride. Hopefully if you express yourself, no matter how "shameful", your loved ones will respect that and admire it. Hopefully, they'll find pride in your bravery and uniqueness. Flourish. Also, don't define your tastes or interest by the status quo. The status quo is shit. Guilty pleasures shouldn't exist but they do. If you like Justin bieber or eating a dozen box of krispy kreme donuts every day then listen to bieber, eat those beautifully glazed donuts every damn night [okay, lol, for the sake of your health, refrain, jesus christ, I don't care if you're hurting nobody else, you're going to die, holy hell, who the hell eats a dozen every damn day? I know right now I'm going against this lesson, but shit son, wtf are you doing]. People will make fun of you for it and they'll make judgements but LOL, you're the one enjoying yourself. Oh, which reminds me, if people have a problem with who you are, remember that, well, that's really their problem. It doesn't bother you, but if it does, defend yourself. Don't take their shit. Haha, somebody on tumblr suggested that if someone makes a discriminatory comment, say you don't get it and request that they explain themselves. If they keep making discriminatory comments to explain themselves, just keep asking "why?" because eventually, they'll run out of "reasons", and they'll be left confused and know that their stupid opinions are in fact, stupid. So remember, who gives a shit if you
5. Think before you speak. So I paint my nails, right? And I'm gay, if that hasn't been apparent yet LOL. And I always knew that somewhere, somehow, I'd be discriminated or called out on it, which is depressing, but people will always exist to hurt others. And painting my nails, having such a clear, visual feature that could so easily be made fun of, I knew somebody somewhere would make a comment, but I never knew how much it would hurt. And oh, it hurt. I want to be indifferent but I'll always be self-conscious. It hurts when strangers are hateful or disgusted but it hurts more when friends are. So if you don't exactly agree with what a friend does, when it really should have no effect on you, keep your comments to yourself, because even if they are your opinions, your opinions will only ever have no other effect than to hurt your friend's feelings.
So you know, think about what you say before you say it, which I guess can be difficult because we speak as we think and things are blurted out. And LOL, I'm very guilty all the time of breaking this rule because I always forget to follow it LOL
6. "You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free." - Thich Nhat Hanh
I read that quote off of tumblr recently and it's right. The way I interpreted this quote was that the person you love, the person who's important to you does not belong to you. They are their own person and even if you have a super strong bond and relationship with them, their job is not to please you 24/7. Sure, it's their duty to see that you're okay, and to treat you like a great friend, but they can't always do that, and we need to understand that. So don't get offended or jealous if your friend makes new friends or does stuff without you or if they pay more attention to someone else because they are their own person, you know??? You're allowed to be upset, but you're not allowed to punish them for it. Sometimes these circumstances are different, but I think we've all been sad when we're second choice to our first choice. Don't get angry. If it upsets you that much, confront it, but not with anger. Yeah? Yeah.
7. Happiness. LOL okay, not really a tip, but let me explain. So you know when people are like "money can't buy me happiness? Well excuse you but I can think of so many problems that would be solved if I had money" and LOL that's funny and true but to an extent, brah. The expression never meant having money meant you couldn't ever achieve happiness, it just meant that you should never choose money OVER happiness. Never sacrifice happiness for cash. You honestly cannot buy that back. Okay, yes, I wouldn't know, I'm too young to know, I am yet to find out what the consequences of my choices are because I'm still making them. And yes, money is a driving force in our world, and you should be making enough money to support yourself and a future family if you want one, but if you work hard enough, you could have it all. The only thing is, depending on what you want, you'll have to work really hard. And LOL I'm the last person who should be talking about hard work.
Okay, LOL That's it. I hope you learned something valuable. Don't be a little bitch. Don't treat other like one and don't take it like one. Anyways, bye guys. I'll leave you with this vine which makes me so damn happy hahahah
http://william-meadows.tumblr.com/post/62051206153/wwehs-how-to-be-an-adult
Okay, LOL That's it. I hope you learned something valuable. Don't be a little bitch. Don't treat other like one and don't take it like one. Anyways, bye guys. I'll leave you with this vine which makes me so damn happy hahahah
http://william-meadows.tumblr.com/post/62051206153/wwehs-how-to-be-an-adult
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